My Mother
State of Arkansas
I am a member of NASGA. I’m fighting for the woman who gave me life, love and compassion. My fight must begin with Guardianship Reform in the state of Arkansas.
Before being diagnosed with Dementia when life felt safe. (Mom kept us safe through her prayers.) Now God has given me the call, to give back to her (compassion). I have always been close to my Mother (Evangelist, Advocate).
Before our dear father passed away February 2015, I reassured him that I would watch out for Mom, as he always did.”
I had no idea someone’s fundamental rights could be removed and all their assets stolen from them, property, life-savings, favor, dignity, all she cared deeply for because she was diagnosed with Dementia.
My mother made her request known to her son, in writing, that she wanted to stay in the home with me, as her caregiver, before He was granted Guardianship.
The status of the Guardianships is in good standings and the Guardian is free to do as they please, if the yearly financial reportings are complete; Lawyers fees are paid and escrow funds are available. The Guardianship has all authority to play God with His seal and the Ward.
As a Prophetess, my Mother woke up one morning after my father’s passing away and said, it’s not over. Now that my husband is gone, they’re coming for me… they want my money, my home and all that my husband has left for me… they’re like vultures. They have their own things…why do they want mine.
Why don’t they let the person that wants to be here, care for me…
As the youngest Daughter, I was asked by my Mother, to stay during the night-time hours. My Mother was afraid to be alone, but I’ve been told to leave my Mother’s home several times by the Guardian and my oldest sister. Even in the presence of the Ward. The Guardianship was told by the Ward she didn’t want anyone to feel unwelcome in her home.
Mom looked at me and said, “Baby, I appreciate your help, but I don’t want them coming after you”. What would cross your mind after hearing that? And your Mother praying to God like never before. She said, “God what did I do!!!!, If It’s going to be like this…Dear Lord take me now.”
Mother also made the statement in writing and verbally before her paid attorney, while speaking to her son over the phone, that she did not want her oldest daughter over her, or handling her affairs, because they did not have harmony in spirit, with each other. Those request from our Mother were ignored by her oldest son the Guardianship.
Before my Brother was granted Guardianship my Mother was force to quit certain activities, she made the comment, “I might as well be sitting in a rocking chair”, My siblings bought our Mother a rocking chair to sit in (To watch TV, as her daily activity).
My Mother is imprisoned 3 blocks from me – in walking distance. She is not allowed to go anywhere without one of the United-Force of five (my three siblings, my niece, or Paid Caregiver from her Church).
After my mother went missing the 3rd time, leaving the house when left alone, she was placed in an Adult Daycare (from 8am-4:30pm) where most of the clients were not active or mobile as she was. When she realized she wasn’t there to do mission work, she refused to go, but she had no other choice. The first time and only time I visited the center, it broke my heart., to see my Mother with her purse in her lap and disappointed at those she thought she could trust. My sister brought a legal document showing my brother’s Legal Guardianship, to ban me from visiting. I wasn’t on the visiting list, only 4 other people were permitted.
Visitation is limited and so are phone calls. Everyone outside the United-Force of five, are surveillanced by cameras using their phones.
My phone calls to my mother have been rejected and conversations are eavesdropped on by Granddaughter and Paid Caregiver and sent to the Guardian in Colorado, when the Ward resides in the state of Arkansas.
My Mother is Not even allowed a private space in her room or what use to be her prayer-room., to pray with me in closed doors.
There is no mediation allowed and there is no dialog with me, regarding what’s best for our Mother.
As my Mother’s Advocate (Trained Dementia Caregiver, Support Group Facilitator), I fight for change. Guardianship Reform is needed in the state of Arkansas to protect those who can’t protect themselves.
1 Timothy 5:3-15, Give proper recognition to those widows who are really in need. But if a widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all to put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God…
~Nita Sampson